Disabled people are no different to people without disabilities. Yes they act different and some of them can't talk but that just means they need more care and help with things. I hate it when people discriminate against disabled people and especially get upset when people bully them. It's not their fault that they were born the way they were but that doesn't matter anyway because that's no excuse to bully them or give them filthy looks. I have a brother who has asperges syndrome. This is a form of autism that effects some parts of the brain which means that he may not be able to function properly in some ways. He only has it slightly. He can walk, talk, run and do everything i can do. He did have to have speech therapy when he was younger and couldn't speak until the age of 7 but trust me, he makes up for it now, he don't stop talking! (haha) I love him so much and even though he can be hard work at times he is a lovely caring boy and he always tries to look after me, he is very over protective even though he is 2 years younger than me. He likes to do his own thing and i suppose the only way you could tell that he has a disability is that when he gets excited he flaps his arms. He is also very clever with computer games and consoles. He can have a new game and know how to play it almost straight away. He also loves bugs and animals, he will pick up any insect or animal no matter how big or small and he loves fishing. Compared to other autistic children he is what people call "normal". Some children in his class in school who also have autism can't even speak. My brother used to play football for a children's disabled football team called the RCT Tigers. Once when i went to watch him play, spent all day with a girl the same age as me but she couldn't speak at all, called Amy. And even though she didn't breath a word to me it was amazing to spend time with someone like that she made me feel happy but at the same time sad for her, but watching her pick flowers for me i realised these people with disabilities they aren't sad for themselves because to them it's "normal" to never talk or never walk and do you know what it is "normal".We all think that disabled people can't do things for themselves and they don't know anything, but they are very clever. If they can't talk they may turn out to be and excellent runner or if they can't walk they may be amazing at computer games, if they can't read or write they may be fabulous dancers, singers or actors. We judge disabled people too much and we shouldn't think that just because they can't walk or talk that they can't do anything, when the fact is that they are very clever, maybe more clever than ourselves so we shouldn't judge or discriminate against disabled people, ever.
Onto bullying disabled people. Bullying a someone without a disability is bad enough, i should know i got bullied in primary school. But to bully a disabled person is just the lowest you can get. When my brother was about 10 years old the older boys that lived in my area used to bully him a lot. They would throw things at him, call his names and copy him when he flapped his arms. He would come in shouting an in a temper, which means we would have to deal with him throwing things and lashing out. I would mostly go out and shout at the boys who did this but they never listened. They also taught my brother swear words and rude things and when he repeated them no matter how much me and my parent's would say it's wrong and naughty and he shouldn't same them, he didn't understand and so he would start swearing. This is just a mild form of bullying for disabled children some children get beaten up and some even killed. This is not right and the people who do these things are thugs and they are wimps because they have nothing better to do than to pick on disabled people who not very often can defend for themselves. Disabled people can work and people with not so severe disabilities can even drive. There are driving schools that teach disabled people especially so that they will be able to have a car, get a job and even their own home. There have been documentaries on television to show disabled people can even have stable relationship and start their own family. I respect the disabled people that want to do these things and believe they themselves have the power to do it if they really want to. There are charities who support what disabled people want such as, disabiltyworks:uk, Scope, Mencap and loads more.
For people who have disabled relative or friend you can relate to what i'm saying but for those who don't, disabled children aren't any different to us and so don't judge or discriminate against them just because they are different get to know them first and you will soon see that they are kind and caring people who just want to be accepted into the world with open arms and friends and family to love them.
Please don't let disabled people feel unwanted, welcome them with open arms :)
Shawny, I am giving you the biggest hug right now! I'm am so so so so happy that there are people in this world like you! What a very rich, beautiful, inspiring post <3 Thank you so much 4 sharing your story and telling us about your lovely brother. I think the way that you hav expressed this post could really enlighten a lot of people who are very ignorant. I feel very blessed 2 have read this post and sincerely hope more people do as well- it is such a wonderful outlook that promotes the message that everyone is a blessing and a gift. While no one can be good at everything, we all have something that we excel at. It also makes me think that we should dispose of the term "normal"- it's used as a marker to judge everyone against. I don't like it at all- I think it hinders our ability to see the beauty in many people and things. I want to thank you again for such a quality post and attitude. Love 2 u, your brother and all your family! XXX
ReplyDeleteAwhh thank you so much for this beautiful comment mel :) You're so right about people using the whole "normal" term, it's not right and anyway what is "normal" there is no such thing in my opinion, everyone is their own unique person. To me, my brother isn't normal because he is special and i am very grateful to be gifted with such a loving, caring brother and i wouldn't wish for anything different.
ReplyDeleteThank you again for this lovely comment :)xoxo